When we think about our ideal selves, we likely imagine ourselves a few inches taller, with straight teeth, pearly whites and without that little bit of flab we can’t seem to shake. Sometimes, we end up obsessing over these things that we want to change, but we just can’t.
We live in a culture that likes to remind us that we are all wonderful, no matter what we look like. The core of this message is wonderful: no person should ever be persecuted or ridiculed for what they look like, whether it be a physical deformity or being overweight. But unfortunately, this idea, while completely justified, can be taken as an invitation not to strive to be the best version of ourselves.
Growing up, I didn’t really think about how in shape I was. I simply ate what I wanted and choked down veggies when I had to. I played sports, insomuch as I stood in the outfield for every game of kickball and did nothing during soccer. When I look back at old pictures of myself, I realize I was a pretty doughy guy. This made me want to improve myself, so I started cutting back on bad food and running a lot.
I often hear people talk about how they lost a lot of weight only to be met with, “Oh you were always thin!” or “Why bother? Eating is fun.” This cheapens the strides that the person made over their journey by making light of what they accomplished.
I didn’t do this to fit in better with the status quo, but because it was something I wanted to do for myself. I’m lucky to say I’ve known several people who’ve made transitions to healthier lifestyles simply because they wanted to and have become more confident and outgoing as a result.
I am all for accepting everyone regardless of their body type because frankly, that’s none of my business. But the feeling that we should have everyone accept who they are unconditionally can close the door on seeking to better yourself, even if you don’t feel pressured to do so. We could all afford to be a bit healthier, and some decide to make health and fitness a mission while others don’t. Either choice is fine, but complacency in any form can be dangerous, no matter how well intentioned.
Kevin Bradley is a Staff Writer for The
Bona Venture.
His email is
bradlekp14@bonaventure.edu
