By a Bonnie
Well, to all of my single ladies and gentlemen, today is the loneliest day of the year.
Today, we are constantly reminded of all the perfect relationships and commitments that celebrities, family and friends are a part of. On this day, we can’t go out to eat because every couple is enjoying a romantic meal out, we can’t go to the movies because every couple is snuggling in the new heated recliner seats feeding each other popcorn and candy, and we can’t even stay at home and scroll through our social media because every post is an appreciation towards their significant other. We just can’t win. But, us singles don’t have to reminisce past love or cry into our pillows all day. We can learn how to be perfectly single on Feb. 14.
The first way to get acclimated this Valentine’s Day is just loving your singleness. Some people tend to get depressed when explaining their absent love life and explaining what “could’ve been,” but it’s best to view them as lessons to be learned from. To get this started, use this opportunity to love yourself. Self-love motivates you to make better choices and nurture yourself in a more positive and healthy way. This way, when you’re ready to venture out and look for a relationship, you’ll know exactly what you’re looking for and how you want to be treated.
If loving your singleness is hard, remind yourself that you don’t need another person to feel self-worth.
People always say that having a partner completes you or fills the missing puzzle piece of yourself. Let’s not be dramatic. Having a partner is nice and all, but you’re still a complete person whether you’re in a relationship or not. This type of thinking also leads to codependence on your partner. If you believe that you are only half of yourself if your significant isn’t around, you can become blinded by love and won’t know when to leave the relationship if a situation permits it.
Also, today is a day that you can treat and spoil yourself. You don’t need to receive boxes of chocolates and roses from anyone. You should go out to your favorite local store and get the biggest box of heart-shapes candies for yourself, instead. Treating yourself shows that you have a reason to celebrate today, even if you don’t have anyone to celebrate with. Treating yourself provides you with happiness and empowerment. We are our own sources of happiness and we don’t need flowers or sweets to prove how good we are.
Being single is not something to be ashamed of today. Instead we can embrace being single and look forward to all the possibilities ahead whether it might include a relationship or not.
